Real Stories + Healing Tools
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When the World Had to Grieve Young
I didn’t expect a show about the AIDS crisis to change how I understand grief, but seeing it through the eyes of people barely out of childhood did. It made me rethink the quiet grief so many of us still carry alone.
The In-Between: What My Coaching Is Really About
Real life change doesn’t happen in the dramatic TV moments. It happens in the in-between — the doubt, the exhaustion, the tiny steps forward. That’s where my coaching begins
Flight, Fight, Freeze… Nap?
Shhhh… Let her sleep. Her body needs this,
Have you ever felt so overwhelmed that your body just… shut down?
When stress hits and you don’t yell, run, or even cry, you nap. You go foggy. You feel heavy. Maybe you fall asleep mid-conversation. It’s not weakness, and it’s not avoidance. It’s a lesser-known survival response called shutdown, your body’s way of saying, “This is too much.”
If you’ve ever felt like your nervous system hits the brakes when life gets intense, this post is for you.
You’re Not Overreacting: Betrayal Trauma Is Real
You can’t eat. You can’t sleep. One minute you’re crying on the bathroom floor, the next you’re completely numb.
And the worst part? You keep wondering: Is this really my life? Am I overreacting?
You’re not overreacting. You’re in trauma.
Betrayal trauma is real, and it changes everything. But with the right support, healing is not just possible, it’s likely.
When Her Win Feels Like Your Loss
Her joy triggered my jealousy, not because she didn’t deserve celebration, but because I couldn’t remember the last time I allowed myself to want something that big. In the end, it wasn’t about her. It was about the dreams in me I was ignoring.
You Aren’t a Bad Mom, You Just Want to Drink Your Coffee While it’s Still Hot.
This isn’t just about coffee.
It’s about how many times you’ve put yourself last and called it love.
You’re not a bad mom, you’re just exhausted.
Even five quiet minutes matter. And so do you
The Yes That Should Have Been a No
Lets explore what it means to stop abandoning yourself in the name of being liked, how terrifying (and liberating) it can be to finally choose yourself, and why recovery often begins with one sentence: No.
Why I Don’t Recommend Couples Therapy Right After Betrayal
It feels like it should be the first step, but it’s actually one of the last.
What If You Can’t Leave…But Can’t Stay Either? Let’s Talk About Therapeutic Separation
When betrayal shakes your relationship, the instinct is to either run or repair — but what if the most healing move is to pause?.
